i know i’m such a nagger and i complain about every single detail of my life but lately, i’ve been blessed. not completely though, cuz me and james still bicker at each other every now and then but i’ve been telling him how he makes me feel and i can see the effort he’s been making to change ever since ever since i have. i think it’s sweet. and i hope things don’t change.
ok so lately there’s been some family drama going on in my life. drama between me, my grandmother and my dad.
it started when i bitched about my dad to my grany and me ending up feeling bad about what i did to grany and just incase you’re interested to know the personal details of my life, i shall copy + paste the long conversation me and my dad had last night on YM. [oh the joys of technology]
issadog_102890: hey dad
alvinpchua69: sush, how u been?
alvinpchua69: whats your home number?
issadog_102890: i’ve been ok
issadog_102890: why man?
alvinpchua69: ill call you on the phone nalang
issadog_102890: uhm. no, i don’t wanna talk. it’s hard for
alvinpchua69: ok, here nalang
alvinpchua69: hows school?
issadog_102890: it’s been ok lang
alvinpchua69: i saw the pic that tita ann sent me
issadog_102890: which one man?
issadog_102890: of me in my uniform?
alvinpchua69: yah. katong gihatud ka niya sa school
alvinpchua69: nindot man diay inyong uniform
alvinpchua69: was that in-front of jones avenue nga
issadog_102890: that was in the reclamation area.
issadog_102890: new man toh na campus
alvinpchua69: aw diha diay inyong campus? wala na diay tung
sa capitol dapit?
alvinpchua69: naa kay webcam sush?
issadog_102890: no lang
issadog_102890: guba akung pc.
alvinpchua69: naa ka sa balay karon?
alvinpchua69: i was wondering why you havent been onlline
for a while now
issadog_102890: i’ve been busy with a lot of stuff.
issadog_102890: dad, i wanted to tell you about something
that happened today
alvinpchua69: what happened today?
issadog_102890: i asked grany to pick me up. and we ended up
alvinpchua69: ngano man?
issadog_102890: because i asked her to pick me up. cuz
before ni ana siya na if i need her, she can drop me off. and i asked her the
night before pa..
issadog_102890: then today, when i told her to pick me up,
she got mad kay aha kuno akung papa.
alvinpchua69: maybe she had things to do
alvinpchua69: gamay ra na sush.. dont let it bother you
alvinpchua69: asa man diay ka moadto unta?
issadog_102890: she said layu kuno. and i said sa ayala
nalang ko pa drop then she kept asking me aha si papa cuz that was his job
alvinpchua69: so how did you go to school?
issadog_102890: and it’s so full of her to say something
like that because i don’t expect to be my papa’s priority cuz iyahang priority
is to put food on the table and bring me to school. in the first place, i don’t
expect him to give me the exact same treatment as he does to his kids because
1st of all, i’m not his real kid. you understand that, right?
alvinpchua69: i understand and i know how you feel
alvinpchua69: pasensya-e lang granny nimo. maybe she was
just having a bad day too. but just because she said that, doesnt mean that she
alvinpchua69: and that doesnt mean that she doesnt love you.
i know she does
issadog_102890: and when she picked me up, she got so mad at
me. she was like, “aha akung papa” and stuff.
issadog_102890: and ako, i felt bad. and i aired out to her
issadog_102890: “maalipay naman ta gani mu na
nakatabang mu nako maski gamay kai wala akung daddy!”
alvinpchua69: sush, she’s probably having problems with
stuff. and the price of gas is kinda high right now. even here in the u.s.
alvinpchua69: pasensya-e lang kay everybody has their bad
issadog_102890: i know that. dad, every where in the world
there are problems and i know that. i’m old enough to know all these things.
issadog_102890: and honestly, i have so much anger towards
you and akung gipa gawas ni granny tanan. and she didn’t deserve that
issadog_102890: you deserved that.
alvinpchua69: i know that
alvinpchua69: cge nalang. just forgive and forget nalang
issadog_102890: no dad. you don’t understand!
alvinpchua69: i know she can be harsh but pasensya-e lang
issadog_102890: i want YOU TO KNOW ALL THESE THINGS. NOT HER
NOT JAMES NOT MY MOMMY
alvinpchua69: yes, i understand
alvinpchua69: im glad you told me that
alvinpchua69: and if you ever need to say anything to me,
just vent out your anger, just say so
issadog_102890: because honestly, i am so TIRED OF ALL OF
alvinpchua69: i dont want you to be keeping your anger
issadog_102890: DAD. I’M TIRED
issadog_102890: OF FEELING LIKE SHIT BECAUSE YOU CAN AFFORD
TO RAISE YOUR KIDS THERE BUT I ONLY MEAN 1000 PESOS TO YOU!
issadog_102890: HOW DO YOU THINK THAT MAKES ME FEEL?!
issadog_102890: I’M YOUR FIRST DAUGHTER, I HAVEN’T SEEN OR
TALKED TO YOU IN SO LONG AND ALL I GET IS 1000. NO LETTERS, NO EMAILS, NO
issadog_102890: don’t you know i’ve been avoiding you for
the longest time?!
alvinpchua69: yes, i had the idea that you were
alvinpchua69: sush, let me assure you that you’re not worth
just 1000 to me. you’re my first daughter and you mean so much to me.
issadog_102890: thenw why didn’t you ever call me?! or email
me?! or text me?! OR ANYTHING!
alvinpchua69: also, i already talked to ann about your
allowance. and i will be sending you more
issadog_102890: don’t know that I WANT YOU TO LOOK FOR ME!
issadog_102890: and you have such small effort
issadog_102890: ga salig raka ni ann2.
issadog_102890: nya ako ngari ga lisud. and i talk to
EVERYBODY about it. i tell me friends my family, even a priest!
alvinpchua69: i do look for you sush. there’s not a day
where i dont think of you, and what you’re doing
issadog_102890: HOW COME I DON’T FEEL THAT?!
issadog_102890: HOW COME YOU DON’T DO ANYTHING ABOUT THAT!
alvinpchua69: i even check out your friendster profile but i
dont say anything
alvinpchua69: believe me. i am
issadog_102890: I DON’T WANT ANY ASSURANCES. I DON’T WANT TO
HEAR YOU SAY THAT YOU DO THIS AND THAT. BECAUSE YOU DON’T GIVE ME A REASON TO
issadog_102890: I WANT TO LOOK FOR ME
issadog_102890: TO MAKE ME FEEL LIKE I MEAN SOMETHING TO YOU
issadog_102890: I WANT YOU TO AT LEAST TRY TO BE MY DAD
alvinpchua69: well, okay, from now on. i will call you
regularly and text you and email you
issadog_102890: i want to know you so bad. but i hate you!
YOU HURT ME SO MUCH!
issadog_102890: i think about you all the time and it just
issadog_102890: i hate the fact that I HAVE TO TELL EVERYONE
WHAT I WANT BEFORE THEY DO IT
issadog_102890: anak man ta ko nimo.
issadog_102890: why can’t you just treat me the same way you
treat your kids there!?
issadog_102890: is it cuz you forgot about me?! daku kai
kung sayup para nimo?!
issadog_102890: you just don’t know how unwanted i feel ALL
THE TIME. ALL THE TIME!
issadog_102890: i hate feeling worthless.
issadog_102890: you just can’ imagine how many times i’ve
asked myself and god nganu na ingani ko run. why my life is so messed up
alvinpchua69: i know that sush
issadog_102890: you know man diay.
issadog_102890: people say that girls marry their fathers.
and i’m so scared that i’m going to end up with someone like you because i
don’t want anyone to go through what you’ve made me go through all my life!
alvinpchua69: i sure wouldnt want you to marry someone like
me. just imagine what you would have to go through with that
alvinpchua69: and if james is anywhere like me, i would have
to ask you to break up with him
issadog_102890: how would i know to begin with?!
alvinpchua69: so, what is james like?
issadog_102890: don’t change the subject. this isn’t about
james. this is about YOU AND ME!
alvinpchua69: you know there is a a pic in your friendster
profile and i didnt like it
issadog_102890: well honestly, i don’t think you have the
right to tell me what you want in my life or not.
alvinpchua69: you’re a grown up now and i cant force you but
its up to you to listen or not.
alvinpchua69: nobody has the right to tell you what to do.
but its your choice to listen or not
issadog_102890: i know that
issadog_102890: because people have told me to forgive you and
give you a chance. but i never have
issadog_102890: because in the first place, you’ve never
even asked for forgiveness
alvinpchua69: why do you feel that i owe you a forgiveness?
issadog_102890: because dad, admit it, you were never a
father to me.
issadog_102890: because you hurt me
issadog_102890: because YOU ARE THE REASON WHY I WAKE UP
FEELING SO WORTHLESS EVERYDAY
alvinpchua69: im just wondering, does it ever occur to you
that, just like you, i am also suffering from not being there with you?
issadog_102890: are you blaming me/!
issadog_102890: do you seriously think i want to be with
alvinpchua69: i wonder, does that ever occur to you that
each day, i think about ways to come home so i can see you?
issadog_102890: god, i can go through years not wanting to
alvinpchua69: sush, i dont care if you want to be with me or
not. all i want is to come home so i could see you.
issadog_102890: HOW IS THAT FAIR ON MY PART?!
alvinpchua69: i dont care if you dont want to see me. all i
want is to be there to see you in person. even if you wont come close to me
alvinpchua69: i gave you time to express your anger and to
listen to what you feel. now, give me a break because you’re not the only one
alvinpchua69: dont you think i ask myself why i am here
while all the ones i love are in the phis?
alvinpchua69: you need to grow up and stop thinking only of
alvinpchua69: do you really know what i feel inside?
alvinpchua69: do you really know whats on my mind?
alvinpchua69: so please give me a break because no matter
how far you are from me. i do think of you a lot and everytime you have
problems i feel miserable too knowiing that im not there to comfort you
issadog_102890: dad, kibaw man gud ko that we’re all going
issadog_102890: but kasabut ka?
issadog_102890: i just wanted you to try.
alvinpchua69: what makes you think that im not trying? and
how would you ever know what i feel?
alvinpchua69: i deal with my feeling the way i do. nobody
knows, not even the people here
alvinpchua69: i dont like to show emotions
issadog_102890: then maybe that’s one thing i got from you
issadog_102890: but it gets to the point when i get so tired
issadog_102890: i tried for so long to act like i dont care.
alvinpchua69: yes, it gets tiring
alvinpchua69: and i guess, thats just how we are
issadog_102890: dad i don’t wanna be like this anymore
because it’s screwing up everything.
alvinpchua69: you know sush, one of these days, i will share
a story with you. something that happened to me several years ago
issadog_102890: i hate feeling like a push over. and feeling
like i don’t have a right to anything
alvinpchua69: you know, i feel the same way too
alvinpchua69: you know last month, marvi and i were talking
alvinpchua69: and she told me that im a pushover and that i
dont stand up for myself
alvinpchua69: and i thought about it
alvinpchua69: and i told her that yes, i do. i try to be
nice to people because the only way i know how to deal with people i dont like
is to hurt them
alvinpchua69: and i dont want to do that.
alvinpchua69: i never learned how to be more assertive or to
stand up for myself in a nice way
alvinpchua69: i just let people push me around until i get
so mad that i just blow up
alvinpchua69: and that is not right
alvinpchua69: maybe what you feel is something that you got
alvinpchua69: maybe we should learn some skill in being more
assertive rather than keeping it inside
issadog_102890: i’m doing it right now
alvinpchua69: you know sush, i was in counseling a few years
alvinpchua69: and one day, i had a one-on-one session with
alvinpchua69: and we did thing until it came into the root
of the problem
alvinpchua69: it turned out that for years, i had so much
anger and hatred towards my dad. that it
affected my anger
alvinpchua69: and the way i dealt with people
alvinpchua69: so that way, during the session, i gave a big,
hard cry. like maybe for 30 mins or so
alvinpchua69: it was such a big hard cry. i didnt know where
it came from. it drained me of all my enery
alvinpchua69: and finally, the counselor asked me if i could
forgive my dad
alvinpchua69: and i did
alvinpchua69: and little by little, i wasnt so irritabe
alvinpchua69: i didnt feel so angry with the world anymore
issadog_102890: so what am i supposed to do!?
issadog_102890: forgive you?!
issadog_102890: just like that!
alvinpchua69: so if it is in your heart to forgive me.
please forgive me for my shortcomings
issadog_102890: it’s not like that.
issadog_102890: IT’S NOT!
issadog_102890: NOT FOR ME
issadog_102890: i’m sorry
issadog_102890: di jud
issadog_102890: i know i may be selfish but i think i have
the right to because the only thing i wanted from you was for you to be dad to
me. was for you to make me feel like i was important to you. i wanted you to
make more of an effort compared to now. i wanted to feel like your DAUGHTER.
issadog_102890: you must be busy
issadog_102890: i’ll go ahead
alvinpchua69: i just dont feel like saying anything
alvinpchua69: just go to bed. its late
alvinpchua69: you have school tomorrow
p.s. i do NOT appreciate the fact that of all the numbers in the world he chose 69. what an ASS!
[which is technically what he would be getting from his number. lmao]
anyways, i woke up today feeling bad and confused and all the shit. and honestly i just wanted today to end.
but now, i wish it wouldn’t. cuz i am sooooooo happy today. :]
today me, james and his friends went to his high school to hang out and then we went karting. i swear, today was so refreshing for me cuz i didn’t have any parents calling me 24/7 or any plans to live up to. today was just so random [except the karting. james and i planned that] and it felt good to feel like this because i haven’t felt this good or young in a while. sure, i was quiet most of the ride but still, silence doesn’t mean you’re not having fun, right? hehe.
but i do have to say, karting was the coolest thing i’ve tried so far. even if cost alot [sorry james, i love you], i absoluetly LOVED it. like, idk, it just made me feel so good, so invincible, so alive. and god, i love that feeling. 🙂
i just wanted to say thank you to james [despite everything] cuz if i didn’t have him, i know for sure that i would never ever have the chance to do that with friends or anyone else for that matter. i know he go through hell with each other but i have to admit, we do have some pretty great times together.
i love you, bikoy.
i’ll see you on triplejack.com 😉